If you or a loved one has chosen cremation for your or their Earthly remains, read this. Even if you have selected cremation because of its simplicity or affordability, there is no need or reason to forego a funeral or some sort of memorial service. Friends, coworkers and family members need closure that only a funeral or memorial can give.
No matter the final place of rest, whether ashes are to be scattered at a special location or placed in a grave site or other final resting place with a marker, this was a life that mattered to many and should be dignified in a formal and respectful manner. Their existence touched many lives. The memorial or funeral need not be religious nor political. A memorial or funeral held in honor of one who chose cremation should be a celebration of the life lived. The non-sectarian nature of a funeral home atmosphere makes it a perfect place for such an event.
An Anecdotal Tribute
Many choose to have a simple but dignified service consisting of scenes of the person’s life. This may or may not include a member of the clergy who would be asked to define their viewpoint regarding the recently departed. Co-workers, business associates, friends, neighbors, family members and others could be invited to relate a story of interaction with the person.
This gives all in attendance a well-rounded concept of the deceased individual’s view on life, his or her personality traits and how they interacted with those present. Any wanting to relate their view of the person who isn’t comfortable with public speaking could write down their tribute and request the funeral director speak for them.
A Memorial Video
Ask the funeral director to create a memorial video as a tribute to the person’s life. Your family photographs can be combined with images and music to create a touching cinematic video. It can be an integral part of any funeral or memorial service. After the ceremony, provide copies as gifts for family and friends that will surely become a treasured family keepsake.
Inject Tasteful Humor
Although the service should be a dignified affair, it need not be bland nor depressing. The life of the one being honored may have been quite sociable and filled with humor. Passing such moments and stories of incidents on should be included as part of the memorial.
A Bridge for the Family
Children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren tend to gain a great deal from such a service. They can hear tributes, stories, humorous incidents from those in attendance and realize they may have inherited a special talent or interest from a forebear. Grandma’s green thumb might be listed as an attribute that a grand child had never heard. Dad’s early years as a musician might have been only slightly known to a child until mentioned by a contemporary of his father during a service. This could explain a deep-seated love of a particular type of music the child has inherited from dad.
Such mentions provide a valuable service to all in attendance who may have known the deceased person. A cremation as a choice of treatment for earthly remains should not be treated as anything different from a burial or entombment–the point of closure for a life well-lived.
Kennedy Funeral and Cremation has been helping Oklahoma families plan memorial services since 1917. Visit our web site at KennedyCares.com for more information about planning memorial services or schedule an appointment with one of our professionals by calling (918) 599-7799.